Why would anyone have a hard time with being talented?
What does ‘talented’ even mean? Who gets to decide this?
I have always had no problem with the talent of others, I could always see that. The problem I had was the definition of “Talented” for myself. There were conflicting ideologies here. Everyone was talented, I of course was part of everyone, but I did not consider myself talented. I could see the tiniest bit of potential in almost everyone and I had set an unrealistic expectations for myself as far as what I needed to do to be considered talented.
Previously when I thought of someone being talented I thought immediately of someone very well known, famous. Not just anyone with a slightly better than average ability at something, but I thought of those that were stood out worldy in their profession. Actors, musicians, billionaires, people with a star on the Hollowood Walk of Fame. These people were talented, I was not.
If I consider my mom talented for her meatloaf (and she definitely is), how could I not consider my massage work and growing writing ability to have some sort of
I can say from personal experience that this is a hard thing to get over. It’s hard to be OK and secure with the idea of something that you cannot see, you cannot feel.
For me it feels as though I am a part of a featured artist opening in an art gallery, walls lined with magnificent paintings and sculptures. I can see the work of others. I can marvel at the beauty they are trying to capture. I can see their ability and message shine though. It’s just so obvious. Then I come to my wing of the gallery that is also on display. It is just as full of on-lookers and fans as any other wing. Others give tremendous compliments on what I have done. I look and strain my eyes. I look at it sideways and frontways, a little closer, a little further back maybe, but from all ways all I see is a solid white canvas. How can I possibly accept a compliments when I’m staring at that? I feel like I did nothing. Am I going crazy? Are they just being nice? I just don’t see it.
How did I start seeing my talent?
-I realized that talent is very raw in nature. It is not an end-all. You may show a natural ability for something but that can only take you so far. If you do not work at it you will not become better, good or great.
-Realize you are telling yourself a lie. Is it really possible that everyone else is talented at something and you’re just left out in the cold? Get over it, stop feeling sorry for yourself, accept the fact that there is good in you and move forward with it.
-Feel out your talent. What I mean by this is that try to play with it, practice it. Maybe it’s only 5 minutes a day but what we’re trying to do is see if there is a spark there, to see if this is something you would like to pursue and take further. You should never feel forced into something and it is quite possible that it is not something you want to pursue. That’s perfectly fine.
For me I found this entire process very frustrating at first, but it grew and developed into a very real passion of mine. I hope you have similar results, I hope you can learn to see your gifts and nurture them. No one wants to live a life of regret of what might have been.